Life is happening. I am getting more pregnant each and every day. I had my 2nd Dr.s Appt last week and well the baby has a very strong heartbeat. I am going into my 16th week and will have an utlrasound and hopefully find out the gender Mid May. I am trying hard to rise my spirits. The father hasn't given up on abortion. I have avoided him and he went out on his own and found out I can have a 2nd term abortion in MD. So he sent me this letter below today but my answer is still going to be NO. Actually NO WAY IN HELL!!!! I'm trying ladies, some days it's really hard. I just want to hide and cry all day long. I'm healthy though gained 8lbs so far on my 5'0 100 lb self and feel huge!!!! LOL My clothes are getting tight. People are commenting on how big my boobs are getting. Hugs from Val & the pugs. 
Well here is the latest letter he emailed me today. It's scarey where his head is. It also makes me very sad.
Val, I'm writing the email in a last attempt to reverse a problem that we are both suffering. The pproblem is an unplanned pregancy. I've pleaded with you for about a month to have an abortion. You have however remained steadfast in your opposition. We both have valid reasons for support and both have been deeply considered. I have pressured you from my heart because I have look clearly into the future. It remains that I don't want to be 61 and have a freshman in high school. I'm too old for this nor do I want it. I don't want to be a father. The question is, have you really considered sitting home 7 nights a week caring for a baby. I would assumed that you have.I know over the last month my words have been mean and ugly, but they are real. I'm sorry for that but as a friend I would have pointed them out to you as well. My words at this point are only poison in your eyes.this is why I will leave you alone to decide what you can and will do. I know what I ask is indeed a monumental task and something not to take lightly. I do respect your consideration of my request. I also know your feelings as well and respect them as well. Knowing all these facts does make it extremely difficult to keep pushing forward with my request. It is that important to me and I know you don't believe me but important to both. Val, it's not too late despite whom or not you have told to change your mind. don't feel backed in. Our peers might even be amazed as to what a great sacrifice you made for someone else, some one that you do care a great deal for. Val, if you have not yet lumped me into the catagory of all men in your life. You might still realize that I am not trying to hurt you. You might still remember that we did put our trust in one another, not to hurt but to help each other. I'm asking for your help now and to try and trust me once more. Don't use me to settle the score for the other men in your life. I'm not saying you doing that purposely, I'm saying I'm not those other men. I know you hate me for this aweful thing I ask but keep yor mind open. These conditions are not fair to you or me and a child. Can it work, I'm sure it can, but is it fair, no. Is it fair to be tied to me because of an unplanned pregancy. Is it good to be tied together the rest of our lives just to make decisions for the well being of this child.That not want we want and you do know it.I know you think my feelings are all about me. Nothing I can say will probably change the way you feel there. They're not of course, but only you will judge that. My feeling are for the concern of all three of us and I can only wish you understood that.Val, I'm asking you to try and stop thinking about the proceedure and think beyond that. Give us a chance to make our lives better again. I will now send this email to you and shut my computer off until Friday at 4:15pm and look for your response. If you do somehow change your mind and you do schedule an appointment let me know so I can make arrangements on my end. If you don't there is no reason to explain just say no. Val keep in mind that I am mindful of how tremendous this decision is and how many different ways there are to look at. I don't envey you in this task. I do ask you for your help and trust. I say I will shut down my computer because I really don't think I can help you think clearly. I feel the hatred for my words as you read. Please do this for me and in the long run for us both. Br.
-val819
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Hello Dear Friends
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
45 comments:
Is he for real? What a dipsh*t. "trust me" Rolling Eyes Whos savior does he think he is? Val don't even listen to him. He is nuts. You are a strong woman and you will make a great mom. He just doesnt want to pay is all. He keeps saying you are both faced with an unplanned pregnancy...at what point in his mind does it become his child? when it sits up and calls him dada? You are the one feeling this child move, hearing its heartbeat, planning for a future, NOT him. He has no right to keep pressuring you. We are behind you 100%, ignore the bastard and if you can, change your email account and lose him altogether.
I agree with Sykorose...what a dipsh*t! I am so proud of you for being strong and sticking to what you believe in - especially when there is immense pressure from him - to do what is "best for all 3 of you" no less! Stay strong and keep coming back here anytime you need to talk Smile
(HUGS)
Wow Val, just....wow. What a pig. I could poke enough holes in his argument to make it look worse than swiss cheese. He wants you to do what is best for the three of you...what a crock. Honestly. Who's best interests does he really think he is looking out for by suggesting that you get an abortion!? You don't want it, the baby is healthy, and, I firmly believe, as the person who has sole control over the fate of the child at this moment (as it is currently resides within you), your say is the final say. Not his.
If he didn't want children, a) he could have abstained, and b) he could've had a vasectomy. If you aren't snipped, it is a risk you take!
Sorry, I know I'm ranting, but I am absolutely incredulous that a man of his age could behave like such a child. Were I in your position, and if (stress the "if"!) I were to respond to his email, I would reply quite simply "Thank you for your concern." No signature, that's it.
It's not impossible to be a father to a college freshman in your 60's. A close friend of mine is by leaps and bounds the youngest in his family, he's now 22, his father is 74. They have a wonderful relationship, too, so it's not impossible by any stretch of the imagination.
Your child is a blessing. Love it, nurture it, and enjoy it. Life is a beautiful thing, and you should relish in it as best you can. Forget him. He's useless. You are a strong woman who knows what is best for you, despite what some fool tries to tell you!
Val,
I agree 100% with what the other girls have said. He said something about the sacrifice you would be making for another......please remind him that you ARE making a sacrifice. An even bigger one than if you'd choose to terminate. You are sacrificing your whole self for this baby. Your life will not be lived for you anymore, but for this child. What bigger sacrifice can you make? If he wants to make you feel like you're doing something nice for someone else, remind him that you already are. And the rewards for your sacrifice will be much greater than if you'd do what he's asking. What a jerk. I don't know what you're planning to do, but if I were you, I'd tell him to just stay away. Don't have any part in any of it then. Your baby will be much happier without him than with him if that's the attitude he's going to have. Sorry, I'm with Sara....these types of men just really tick me off!! You are doing what's best for you and that is the right thing. Tell him you're done with him unless he can change his attitude and be supportive. Sara's right, too, if he really didn't want to be a father, 1/2 the responsibility lies with him. He knew what the risks were and decided to do it anyway. Now he's too immature to take responsibility for his actions. I'll quit now. Just keep coming here for support if you need it. You're doing the right thing!
Hi Val...((((hugs))). It must be so hard to have feelings for a man that speaks to you this way and tries to guilt trip you into doing something that would harm you. I hope that this eventually just makes you stronger. I know right now it's hard to make it through, but you're fighting for something that is so important. You'll make it through, look back, and say "Thank goodness I didn't give in!" You go girl. Smile
Bellyrubs and smooches to the pugs.
Hi Val,
I love the comment on poking holes in his arguments to make swiss cheese. And I totally agree.
Change your email, don't deal with him anymore and get your mind on happier and healthier things. Like yourself and your baby and the wonderful people that support you.
Look forward to hearing more from you on this board.
I'm sure everyone remembers that when you are in a tough situation you have good days and bad ones. I know the good will eventually outnumber the bad. I have had no contact with the father for 4 days. I asked him to leave me alone and he is. I can go from angry to sad in a matter of seconds. I try to keep myself busy and luckily I am busy with work. I feel like I lost my best friend. But I do realize a friend wouldn't treat me this way. Luckily I have my real friends & family that are doing a great job of helping me. I am trying to excited but I get scared like I made the wrong choice. Is that normal? Val
Even in a planned pregnancy it's normal to second-guess yourself. And the hormones in your body will really mess with your emotions. I remember when i was pregnant, I would cry at sappy commercials Wink ! Just remember that you followed your heart, and you know that this was the best course for you to take. You will have good days and bad days, but we all do anyway, don't we? You are doing great and I know you are going to make a great mom. Make sure to fit in some relaxing and fun things into your life with your family and friends (great supporters) and pretty soon you won't miss the father so much. And vent as much as you need to here Smile That's what we're here for!
Good for you for doing without the father. I'm sure it's hard in its own way though. (((Hugs))) You're right that a friend wouldn't have acted this way. Maybe he'll come around. A lot of men do in time. It'll be up to you whether or not he's worth it though. I'm so glad you have family and friends to support you right now.
The scariness of pregnancy/parenting is very normal. You'll have a lot of that while you're pregnant - even if it were planned. There's a book I'm reading right now (since I'm suprisedly pregnant too) called Surprise Child. It covers the emotions and fears and joys very well, and it gives lots of examples from women who had an unplanned pregnancy along with their various responses. I highly recommend it to you.
((((Hugs)))) You'll be in my thoughts and prayers for better, happier days soon.
Rose thanks I just ordered the book. I have been very angry for the last few days. I don't speak or hear from him and it's still hard. He called some on my girlfriends yesterday asking them if I knew what I was doing and if they ever heard me say I want to be a mom. Since I wouldn't have the abortion he know believes I set him up. Unbelievable how much you think you knowsomeone until a crisis happens. It hurts because I am good person and to have him throw those accusations around is crazy. I guess he's still in the denial/ anger phase. Everyone knows now including the other woman who has ended their relationship. I think I am getting the brunt of his anger. He lied and told her he cheated on her for a year. It's was 4 years and it makes me sink how he's turned on me. I did us a both a favor by not having an abortion. I'm sure in the long run we wil both be happier without him. This situation is unbeliavable. My suppport is amazing though. Everyday my friends & family call me. Take me to dinner, walk in the park, try to help get me excited. I'm trying, I promise. Hugs-Val
Boy, it sounds like everyone's better off without him. You are doing really well, Val. You're surrounding yourself with supportive, positive people who are really helping to get you excited and at least show you they love you and care about you and baby. I'm so glad for that. Keep up the great work. How far along are you now? Have you felt the baby move yet? That'll help with excitement!
I am very glad to hear you have support. I could think of many many descriptive terms for that man, most of them being four-lettered words (or variations thereof) for him and how he is behaving. Are you going to go file for child support when the baby is born? What of custody? These are things you might want to consider seeing as he is behaving worse than a spoiled toddler (apologies to spoiled toddlers everywhere-they don't know any better).
If anything, keep the emails and any other messages he might leave you (voicemail and otherwise) so that it can be used as evidence in court - just in case.
I cannot express to you enough how proud I am for you standing up for yourself and what you want. I cannot wait to hear how you are progressing in your pregnancy. ((hugs))
Stay strong!
I just wanted to day hello and say I hope everyone is well. I have a drs appt today and everything is good. I heard the baby's heartbeat and it sounds so lovely. I have my ultrasound on May 22. I am very excited and can't wait. I got an even bigger surprise later today. Bruce called and left me a voicemail asking me if he could go to therapy with me. I had begged him for this but he was only supporting therapy if I had the abortion. I take this as an encouraging sign for this child and for all of us. We will go on the afternoon of the 22nd so I will let you all know how it goes. I think talking to him mom is helping him. I have kept my distance and he called me last Friday and apologized for being so mean a few weeks before. That's two big steps in just a few days. I'll keep praying that it will only get better. Anyway, work is keeping me busy. I have so much to do before maternity leave. I love my job so I don't mind. I have to travel to Chicago this Friday for a week for pleasure-visiting some friends and for business. I'll write again soon. Thanks for your continued support. Hugs & pugs, Val
I wish you the best of luck with this situation - the father sounds like a manipulative jerk. Much like my father, actually. When my mom got pregnant, he didn't want kids either and tried to manipulate her into giving us up. I'm now 20 and my brother is 17 - and my dad is still a manipulator. So while I encourage you to do the therapy with him and try to work things out, I would also caution you - manipulators don't easily change.
Glad the baby is healthy, and wishing you as much strength as you can hold. *hugs*
Hi Val,
I am hoping for your sake that this means a 100% change of heart and that he will be there for you and your baby. It does sound like an abrupt turn around, though, so just like the PP said, I'd be a little cautious. I think he'd be able to understand that. Have a great week in Chicago. Let us know how the ultrasound and therapy goes when you get back. Are you finding out what you're having?
Val
I would really like to believe that this is the beginning of a change too.
However, I caution you huge!! Manipulators find ways to get you back in their grip and if it is to make you believe they have changed they will really look like they have changed, but that change will only be on the surface.
Please be careful, you have come too far to let this guy come in again and bring you back down. He has lied hugely before, he could very well be doing that again.
Pray for wisdom and discernment and we will too.
It's a girl!!!! Yes a girl. Now I'm really terrified to be a single mother.
I hope this email finds everyone well and excited for the long holiday weekend. Since I've been working from home most of the week I feel like I can't wait to get outside and garden. The weather is finally warm and I love the sun.
Monday morning I had my ultrasound. It was truly one of life's most memorable moments. I laid there and they measured and poked and tried to wait my sleeping little girl. I had orginally thought it was a girl but then everyone around me is having girls so I thought. I'm having a boy. That's instinct is always right. If only we listened. She is 9oz so far and her features & little head are beautiful. She is just amazing and I can't wait for her to get here. I have picked 5 names. I did this last week. I picked 5 boys & 5 girls names. They are Ava, Addison, Layla, Kaitlyn or Stephanie. The middle name I like is Grace.
Monday Afternoon found me again on an emotional roller coaster. Bruce showed up for therapy but was very angry. He said some more nasty things like our relationship was a mistake & just a sexual relationship. This hurt so much I can't even explain. He looks bad & sad & very depressed. He says all he does is work & sleep. He said he was there to have Bill mediate things with the child. I guess I had expectations that he would be nice in the session but he wasn't. You could clearly see him directing his anger towards me. It hurts and stole from my earlier joy of the day. Ladies, I spent four years caring about this person. Our relationship was much more than just sex. We talked all the time about everything. We were so close. I know is life has changed forever but why does he have to look at this like a terminal illness. He said in therapy the whole world thinks he's a scumbag. His mom & sister are digusted with him for doing what his ex wife did. Cheat on someone. But he wasn't married. I know it was wrong. Neither of us had ever cheated on anyone before. We were both very hurt from what our marriage spouses did to us. We found comfort in the other. It's not my fault he wasn't happy in his other relationship. I dated other people. He hated when I did. Why is acting like I was just a sex toy? I can't stand it. It's not fair. It brings me so much pain that I know I have to work past. I will in time. Just not today.
I pray that in time we will all be alright. I'm sorry I guess I'm depressed today.
Hugs-boy I really need them right now. Val
(((HUGS))) What a jerk. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I guess this is one time when for the sake of you and your daughter, your head needs to override your heart and put this guy in your past. I know it won't be easy since you'll be having to deal with child support, etc., but you have to protect yourselves. You deserve so much better than that. I hope that someday you will find the perfect guy that will love you and your daughter as his own. It does happen - it happened to me and I will pray that it happens for you, too.
A girl!!! That's so neat! I love all the names you've picked - I especially like Grace, that's my daughter's name. I'm really glad everything looks good and she's a healthy baby. I will pray that the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly. Thanks for the update, keep us posted when you can. Have a great weekend!
Val,
I am sorry too that he has chosen not to be supportive and act like a grown man. I have a friend whose husband cheated on her and has now told her that he would never have had to cheat on her if she would have been a better wife. All I can say to #$$#% crap like that is LOSER!!!
This is exactly what your ex is doing to you. Placing all the blame at your feet and not accepting any of the responsibility. This shows that he has much bigger issues and problems than you can realize and it is so much better that you found out now rather than later.
You have a beautiful baby girl growing inside you and you need to make good choices now. Surround yourself and her with people that support and truly care about you.
Replay that day and retape over the bad part and focus on the joy you had during the ultrasound. We are here for you.
Awwwww...a girl. Smile Girls rock. Very Happy I can't wait to find out what I'm having. I think it's a boy, and I'm sure that'll be fine...lol...but my daughter has just been so much fun it's hard to think of having to play with trucks and boy stuff. Wink
I would think it'd be easier to be a single mom to a DD rather than a DS, since you know how to teach someone to be a girl. Do you have any specific fears we can help you with?
I'm so sorry to hear your day was ruined by Bruce. Sad It is so amazing to me how fast people can change...or could it be that he was always that way and was just showing you fakeness the whole time you were with him? I dunno...it's awful either way. Please don't dwell on anything that you've done. This is all him right now, no matter what the past held. You are making good decisions, and he is making bad ones, and you have nothing to do with that hon. It's hard not to question and doubt yourself, but just always bring it back to that thought. "It's not my fault if he reacts badly or makes bad decisions. That's his choice."
Big big ((((hugs))))) sweetie. Post again soon.
Hi ladies,
I just wanted to say hello. I am back from Orlando and had another Dr's appt on Tuesday. I now have 3 due dates. Ugh. I laugh and say she's coming in Oct. LOL I am happy to be home and done traveling for a while. I have one fun weekend in Chicago coming up but that's it until the baby arrives. I have so much to do it's not funny.
My days are good. Although I laugh one minute & cry the next. I am still healing from the whole ordeal. The father & I are attending therapy together this Monday. We went seperately the last two weeks since I was away. I hear from friends that he isn't doing well. It makes me sad but I have to worry about me & the baby. He is a grown man and it's time he acts like one.
I love summer but it is already flying by which is scarey because then the baby will be here very soon afterwards. I still can't even believe I'm having a baby. Lately I've been wondering how she'll get here. The stork I hope because the thought of labor & childbirth is new to me and super scarey.
I really enjoy feeling her move. It reassures me that I made the right choice for me. The pugs love to lick my stomach and lay on her which I find weird. They never did that before. I wonder if the know something is inside. Anyway I hope everyone is well and are enjoying the summer. I will write again soon. Hugs, Val
Dogs do know there is a baby there...funny how sometimes animals are more in tune with our bodies than we are Laughing My friend had a pit bull that would come lay on my tummy with her paws up on my chest when I was expecting Christopher. Sorry to hear that the daddy isnt being mature but hey, if it is just word of mouth try to give him the benefit of the doubt. That can be hard I know...You are doing well to focus on you and baby. Let him work out his own issues. Good luck with that stork bit. Wink Take care and do keep us posted.
watch that baby come in sept or nov....lol....i hate that due date thing...mine is currently Jan 1 believe it or not.....as for the dog my peekapoo use to do the same thing but for some reason it insisted on peeing me Neutral ut would chase the last one around in my belly and bark at her when she kicked it....now my cat is insisting on laying on my belly and the funny thing is shes pregnant too....but i hope the father comes around ive read your story and cried and wanted to pop him LOL by the way my bday is Oct 23 so i say its a good month......!! Good luck
Hi Val! Good to hear from you again! I'm glad you're doing well. A fun weekend in Chicago - how exciting! I'm jealous! You're doing the right thing by thinking of you and baby first. And therapy is great for you, too. If there's a chance of him coming around, that would be the way to do it. The labor and delivery thing? Well, millions of women do it every day, you will get through it. Not that it's a walk in the park, but you will survive. A birthing class might help you prepare a little bit, ask your doctor or the hospital where you'll be delivering what they offer. I really enjoyed the class and felt it did at least give me a pretty accurate description of what to expect. I wish you the best. Keep us updated!
It's been a few weeks and well I can actually sit here and tell you all I am enjoying this piece of my pregnancy. I am almost 27 weeks now and getting a big belly. I am all belly!!!!!! My baby girl is a mover & shaker. She kicks alot. Has me a bit worried that she is high strung like her mother. I can't wait to see & hold her. Things are getting better every day. There are still rough days but more better days than rough ones. Bruce & I actually had our first decent therapy session a week and a half ago. He apologized, told me he didn't hate me, and then afterwards he was almost pleasant in the parking lot. It was the first time we had spoken in a month and the first time he saw me looking quite pregnant. I really didn't show until then. I had been so stressed for that session. We talked afterwards about how maybe we needed a different therapist as we think the guy we are seeing may not be the best for the situation. I was shocked that he wanted a better one. I take that as a good sign. he has been showing up and trying and well I can say I could honestly see a glimpse of my friend again that day. I could look at him and not hate him myself. That felt nice for a change. I was very guarded with him that day. I am cautiously optimistic but hopeful that things continue to get better for our daughters sake. We go again this Monday so cross your fingers that he has gotten even better. I was in Chicago again last week visiting friends. They just found out they are pregnant with triplets. I think I'm contagious. LOL. I am very happy for them and hope everything goes well. I hope you are all having a great summer and I will post again soon.
hugs & pugs, Val
Hi Val,
It was very nice to hear from you. Glad things are going well. This stage of pregnancy was always my favorite too. No too huge, not sick, and not looking plumpy, just pregnant.
I encourage you to be cautious with BF, he needs to show you that a change is from the heart and not only meant to get more of what he wants.
Please continue to see a therapist and change to one that you both agree on if neccessary.
Take care of baby girl and enjoy all that movin and shakin Very Happy
Hi Val...how cool that you're enjoying the pregnancy. Smile Have you signed up for childbirthing classes yet? Any baby shower plans that you know of?
Hi Val, thanks for the update. I enjoyed feeling my babies dance too! Take good care of yourself k? (((hugs to you and baby)))
Thanks everyone. Things are so much better, not amazing but better. I had an ultrasound for fun yesterday. I am fortunate to have access to an US machine thru a friend and they did one yesterday. My little peanut was dancing and flipping and it was great. She looked so cute. I can't wait to meet her.
I had therapy with her father last night and I have to say he was very kind again and I think we are getting somewhere. He seems to be accepting this. He's not thrilled but he's being kind and concerned about me & the baby and I like that. We only talk there at this point and that's fine. We are taking baby steps to healing which can only benefit all three of us. I am guarded with him but have to say I respect that he shows up. Not every man would. We have been thru a lot these last 4 mos. I will continue to pray for the best with that piece.
I have started doing prenatal yoga and it's great. I am getting fearful of childbirth and it keeps me relaxed and in a good place.
My girlfriends are throwing me a shower on August 20th. I really don't like showers and well I feel a little embarrassed about the whole situation but they are being great about my requests. I just want to hang out with those I care for and not have it be too showery. If that makes sense. It's not a surprise as I don't like surprises and this has been a big surprise already.
My nursery is coming along and I really am enjoying this part of my pregnancy. Even all by myself. I try to share as much of it as I can with others but it would be nice to have a man there that really cared and could get excited when she moves. Well for now the pugs do. I use them as side sleeping pillows. They are best. I took them for ice cream tonight. They are too cute eating an ice cream cone. I had some yummy pineapple coconut smoothie. I still get sad but I have faith that things will be ok now and will be the way they are supposed to be. Someday I know it will all make sense. Just not today. I'm just thankful to feel better emotionally as the big day gets closer and closer.
I hope everyone is enjoying their summer as well. Stay in touch.
Enjoy!!! Smile Valerie
I'm so glad things are working out better for you now. You are right, some men wouldn't even show up, it's a good sign that he is. I hope this means that he wants to be a part of your daughter's life and can be a good dad to her.
Your pugs sound adorable - it is so sweet that they are so comforting to you Smile
36 weeks and I'm almost there. I can't believe how far I've traveled thru this whole experience. I sit in therapy with Bruce and say wow. We really have come a long way. I am so excited, yet so anxious as time is drawing near to our daughters birthday. A piece of advice for all those in an unexpected pregnancy. I honestly know I made the right decision. Bruce already says I did and she isn't even here yet. It looks like her name will be Addison and he even calls her by that now. We aren't dating just working hard at trying to be good parents together. We talk on the phone and I am comfortable with him again. It is nice to have him there and feels much better than doing this alone as I had been. It's not always easy to forgive but I feel I have more to gain by forgiving. We are still taking baby steps but in my eyes they are big steps for one soon to be arriving little girl. Hang in there everyone that is having a rough time right now. Have faith & hope and you can rise above your situation. I am so happy that I made the decision to have this baby and I can't wait to meet her. The pugs are excited too and can't wait to kiss their new baby sister. Val
Hi Val, thanks for popping in to say hello. I'm getting teary thinking about how things were for you in the beginning and how they are now. Things really have come a long way, haven't they? Wow! And now you're just a few weeks away from being a mommy! I will pray that all goes well for you during labor and delivery, and that you'll all make a smooth transition into parenthood. Update us again when you can! (((HUGS)))
you could go anytime now I guess..good luck and i hope these last few weeks go smoothly and quickly...it seems like they take forever LOL..cant wait to read your birth story!!!
That is so fantastic! I am truely happy for you. I have the same feeling of contentment with my children, it's amazing. Good luck with the birth!! Addison is a pretty name too. Very Happy
What a pretty name! I'm so glad things seem to have turned all the way around. Smile I cannot wait to hear about the birth and see how much you love mommyhood!
Thank you Each and every one of you. The baby has dropped and I can breathe again. Only downside she is pushing down low. If you know what I mean. I can tell she has my personality. Very fiesty & active!!!! LOL I hope she has lots of both of us in her. I can't wait until she gets here. I am a nesting machine. I have had so much energy this trimester that I can't keep up with it. I am organized thru the end of the year with work and the holidays and everything. Last night, I ordered my Christmas tree online. I get it from this great farm in Bethlehem, NH called the rocks Christmas tree farm. It is my 3rd year and the tree gets brought right up my stair in a long box by the UPS guy. It's great. I highly rec. this farm. I mean I am always an organized freak by right now I'm even worse. Anyway, I hope everyone is enjoying fall. I know it's my favorite time of year.
So thrilled to hear how things are going well for you and baby Addy. I can totally sympathise on that nesting bit...I went around my house with a toothbrush, rag, and simple green scrubbing the crusties off of lightswitch plates and baseboards. LOL Got high from the fumes...Perhaps that is what is wrong with Christopher now. Rolling Eyes Best wishes on the birth.
Did you have her yet Val??? We need an update!
Addison Grace has arrived And changed our lives forever. Addison made her entrance into the arms of mommy & daddy on October 10th at 3:38pm weighing 6lbs 15oz, and was 20 inches long.
Her birth story is one as you all know that was unplanned and I struggled with my decision but the moment I looked into my baby girls eyes. I knew I really made the best decision on my life. She is the most beautiful fulfilling thing that I have ever done. I stare at her and can't believe that I carried her inside me for 9 mos. Adjusting to parenthood has it's ups and downs. Especially with nursing. I feel like a human milk machine. But i really love it all.
I was induced and had a great labor & delivery and am having a wonderful recovery.
Bruce is the most amazing father I have ever seen. We are continuing therapy where I'm sure we will discuss guilt he probably feels now for what he thought he wanted.
My daughter is very fortunate to have so many people around her that love her. Including her fur pug sisters who also adore Addi.
I am nursing as I type and I can not tell you how happy I am to have found this site. I will forever be eternally grateful for all of you that helped me get thru the darkest of moments to this amazing moment.
I will continue to post and let you know how we are all adjusting to our new lives.
Hugs & pugs and lots of kisses from Addison for all your help you gave her mommy, Val
Welcome to the world, little Addison! And congratulations, Mommy Val! I REALLY love that name! I am so thrilled at how things have all worked out for you. I'm glad that you allowed us to share this with you and support you as you waited for this moment. Don't forget we'll be here to support you during the craziness of mommyhood, too. Thanks for letting us know of Addison's arrival!
WOOHOO! That is just so exciting! I am so happy for you, and Bruce and your pugs! It has really worked out well. Addison is a beautiful name. I am so glad you found this site and that your daughter made her way into such a loving world! Very Happy Yay Mommy Val!
Congratulations!!! What wonderful news!! You've got me over here in happy tears. bawl I wish we could see a picture. It sounds like motherhood suits you - and it only gets better. Smile
Please keep posting...we're here to support you still. There is a breastfeeding board here and a parenting one as well.
Big ((((hugs)))))! I am SO happy for you!
*sniffling* That is so sweet! What a gorgeous name! Twas truly grace that allowed your Addison Grace to be here with us. I am so glad you feel peace and joy at your decision to give birth. What a wonderful outcome for all of you! I am so very glad for you. Congratulations!
That is wonderful!!!!!! Im so glad shes here!!!!!!!
Post a Comment