Hi. I'm just about to turn 17, and well I think I may possibly be pregnant. I started having sex with my boyfriend about 3 months ago, but we've always used condoms and all but maybe 3 times he has pulled out before he came, even though he had the condom on. The last time he came while inside of me was I think July 28, maybe a day or two before or after. Either way, we used a condom, and after he took the condom off, he had checked to see if the condom had broken at all and it didn't.
I was due to have my period on August 13, and about a week before, I started having cramps, but they didn't feel the same as they had before. My breasts we're also a little more tender than usual, and I was experiencing some slight nausea. August 16 came around and nothing. I was afraid I was pregnant, but waited a few days to see what would happen. I started my period 4 days later, and though it was late, the flow was normal and it lasted the normal 4-5 days. After my period I felt fine. Here it is now the 22nd and I've been having nausea again for about two weeks. I also have been having quite a bit of headaches, and I haven't yet started my period. I've also noticed that I am a little more tired than usual. I don't know if I am pregnant, or if it could even be a chance of pregnancy being that I did have a normal period, and I really haven't had many symptoms of being pregnant.
Not only am I looking for advice on if I am pregnant, but I'm also looking for people to talk to in case it turns out that I am. I haven't yet taken a pregnancy test, but if I don't start my period by Monday, I am going to either get a test from the store or goto the clinic and have one taken. I know that the guy I'm with won't leave me if I am, but I really don't know how I am going to deal with being pregnant and still finishing school as I want to. Any advice that is shared is very appreciated.
-steph
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
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Hello Steph, and welcome!
Seeing as how your last period, although a little late, was normal, it sounds like you're probably okay. Sometimes being stressed about it can cause your period to be late, and sometimes even cause you to feel like you're having symptoms of pregnancy. How late are you? I think it's smart to wait until you're about a week late and then take a test.
If it turns out that you are pregnant, or even if you need to talk until you find out, we're here to help you however we can. Keep us posted!
(((HUGS))),
Chris
Well being that my cycle is usually about 30 days, I should've started on the 19th, but haven't yet. Its only three days late, so I will probably wait till the end of the week and see if I start or not. One thing I have been noticing though is I've had a little bit of spotting, but I've only noticed it about two times in the past week.
I'm thinking that you're probably not pregnant. You had sex with condoms, and you've had a period. I can't explain why your periods are coming late, but sometimes that happens. You could also be developing some sort of hormonal problem.
Go to a pregnancy center and take a pregnancy test. If it's negative, see what your next cycle is like. If it's anbormal again, I would call a doctor and let him/her know what is going on.
In the meantime, know that if your periods are late, you could be ovulating at any time, so use precaution very carefully if you are going to continue to have sex. I would also suggest some sort of back up in addition to the condoms.
Will you let us know what happens? We're of course here to talk to you about what the results are and where to go from there. Smile ((((Hugs))))
Hi Steph,
I agree with Chris and Rose, that you are probably not pregnant.
I agree with Rose too on the additional birth control. My husband and I were using condoms about eight years ago and our baby just turned seven in August. He of course is a true delight, but we not sure if we wanted anymore so we thought condoms would work. Rolling Eyes They are not considered your highest protection. So please if you are going to keep having sex use a second type of birth control and use it very faithfully.
Talk to your boyfriend about what a scare this was for you and that you realize that you just are not ready to have a baby. You want to finish school without the stress of worrying about being pregnant. Maybe you and he could start over and begin dating and spending time together without the sex. You never know it may strenthen your relationship and you might become even better friends than you are now. Just something to think about Smile
If your periods continue to be late and less than normal, consult a doctor.
Let us know how you are doing.
Ruth
Well still no period...but I guess the good thing is I haven't been feeling sick to my stomach at all for the past few days, and haven't been tired really either. I've been giving it quite a bit of thought, and realize that I haven't really had any symptoms of pregnancy, and that I've been up everyweek day at 7, outside for marching band, marching around and it doesnt seem to bother me anymore than it normally does. So I guess thats a little hope that maybe its just stress thats causing my period to be late, and I really hope it is.
I had a talk w/my boyfriend last month when I was late and feeling sick, and we kind of talked about the options if I was pregnant. I know he isnt ready to be a dad, but i also know that if it happened, he wouldnt leave.
If I dont start by the end of the week, I'll go get a test, and if all's well, then I'll prob see about getting on birth control.
Thanks for all the advice and positive help, I'll keep my fingers crossed and keep praying that everything is ok.
Steph
Hi there Smile
It sounds like you're not in panic mode any more, and that's good. Wink I like your plan to take a pregnancy test and take it from there. Please let us know what happens Monday, okay?
((((HUGS)))))
Mind if I chime in? I was 17 when I got pregnant with my oldest son. It was rough but if you are determined, things can turn out all right. Ditto to the extra birthcontrol ! Condoms are a great backup but not much good for anything else...LOL Also, withdrawal is anything but reliable...Let us know how the test comes out ok? FYI it is possible to have a period while pregnant, although it would be much lighter than normal...This happened to me...I am with the other girls on this one though, probably not prego. Stress or fear of pregnancy can actually do some wierd things to your body. Shocked Best of luck sweetie!
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Love, Christine
We'd love an update if you're able to give one.
Good news...I was gonna go get a pregnancy test yesterday, but didn't have to, period started, and at first I was thinking well maybe it just means I am pregnant, so I waited till this afternoon, and nope...the flow isn't any lighter than what it normally is. I was pretty relieved cuz the past week I have been having stomach cramps different than cramps I get from pms. Once I'm done, I'll be making an appointment to get on some birth control, and just to have everything checked to make sure its all ok. Thanks a lot for the support, and hopefully I won't have to go through this again for a while. I think this scare has really scared me into thinking twice about whether or not I should be having sex. But thanks again, and hopefully I'll be able to still visit the boards and help others who may think the same.
That's great Steph! I'm glad this turned out the way you wanted it to. We learn from our mistakes, don't we? I hope you stick around, and if you have any birth control/fertilitity questions, there's a forum here for that too.
Best wishes hon.
I'm glad to hear AF finally decided to make an appearance! What a relief! I think you're wise to get on some birth control - wise also to reconsider having sex. Sometimes we need these little scares so we think twice about it in the future. Best wishes for your future. We'd be happy to have you stick around.
have you taken a pregnancy test steph?
i know a woman that didn't know until she was 6 months pregnant because she had her period the whole time. and considering that your symptoms like headache, fatigue, "morning sickness" are dying down now - it may be because you're close to ending your third term.
i don't know babe, i would definately take a test just to be sure. good luck <3
No I haven't, but i thought about that as well. I had heard of that happening. I prob won't have time to make it down to the clinic to get a test, but I will probably go out and buy one sometime this week and see what it says, or I will make time to goto the clinic to get one taken. The only symptom I'm really having now is cramps which could just be from the period, and I've had pain that is almost more upper abdominal than anything else..I'm not sure what that is from, and I am still feeling a bit nasueas here and there..which could also be due to my horrible sinus problems that I have. Either way, I'll take a test sometime this week to be sure
Hi Steph,
Glad that AF came along.
I am with Chris on you being wise to reconsider having sex. Try and stay away from situations that could easily turn into sex, like parking, or being alone in a house.
Alot of physical issues arise when a person is under stress. Your cramps, nauseusness, and faitgue could easily be related to stress.
Try the no sex for awhile and I think you will be amazed at how much less stress there is. Talk to your boyfriend, if he is a decent guy he will want it for your sake as much as his. No highschooler should be worrying over being pregnant every month. You should only be enjoying you last few years in school, before the real world comes.
Keep in touch,
Ruth
Glad to hear your period came...what a relief. Do go get tested though and find a reputable clinic to get bc ASAP. Don't have sex again without it hon. Remember, BC can sometimes prevent pregnancy but it does nothing to prevent stds or broken hearts...I was your age when I became sexually active and suffered lots of avoidable heartaches...That is the mom in me coming out LOL. Take care sweetie. Luv Christine
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