Hi again.It's been 5 months now since my abortion,and most of the time i can keep the pain in check and deal with it privately,but some days i still lock myself away and weep.I guess as it's nearing the time i would have given birth it's a bit harder,anyway,the reason i am posting here is this.My periods are always regular,the 15th of every month.In July,i got my period on the 5th,bit odd i thought,but didn't worry too much about it.About 2 and a half weeks ago,my boobs started really hurting,and felt enormous and tender.I normally get sore boobs pre period,so i just waited to come on.But i haven't come on,and i have been needing to pee more than often,and have felt bloated.Last friday,i bought a test but it was negative,so i just thought i would get my period soon.Yesterday,the 15th,i went and had a test done,negative again.My boobs are still sore,and i feel very weepy.The sample i took wasn't early morning,would that make a difference?There was one occasion when i could have got pregnant,it was a week after the period i got early,i let my husband come in me as i genuinely thought it would be safe,of course,at the back of my mind i am always secretly,desperately hoping against hope that i will conceive again.But with 2 negative tests,i am more concerned as to why i haven't got my period.Any suggestions?
-Linzi
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
so confused
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Are you under a lot of stress? Sometimes that can do. Also, sometimes your mind plays tricks on your body, and if you think you might be pregnant, sometimes your body will act like it is. So, you should've gotten AF yesterday? Or, since you will early in July, possibly even earlier? It seems like a test would be positive by now, even if it's not first morning pee. Maybe this warrants a call to your doctor, just to double check and make sure everything's okay. Let us know what happens, okay?
Hi Linzi,
It's good to hear from you again, although I'm sorry you're stressed out over this. I'm also sad to hear that you still have to "lock yourself away and weep." Are you still seeing a counselor? At the very least, please come here when you're this upset and get some support and encouragement hon. (((Hugs))) Anniversary dates are always a difficult thing.
A pregnancy test would be positive by now if you were pregnant - morning pee or not. It sounds like there might be something hormonal going on. This is your 2nd mixed up cycle, right? Your first was short and this one is dragging on.
If your breasts are sore, then that means there is progesterone being made. Usually, it takes 14-15 days from the end of ovulation (when your breasts would begin hurting) to the beginning of your period. Is there a chance you're off on the day that you started noticing the sore breasts? If it was 2 weeks ago instead of 2-1/2, AF could be right around the corner. If it doesn't come in this next week, call your doctor and let him know what's going on. You could have a cyst on your ovary (noncancerous) that is affecting your hormone levels or any number of other issues going on, and your doctor may want to see you, put you on the birth control pill to regulate you, or give you a progesterone pill for a few days to make AF come.
Will you keep us posted on this? (((Hugs)))
Thanks for your support,really helps me.I still haven't seen a counsellor,i am still on their waiting list.Still haven't got my preiod,boobs are still sore,i am bloated and uncomfy.Had a terrible day today,i walked out of my job,just had enough,couldn't cope anymore.I know this was irresponsible due to loss of income but i really felt i could not cope with work at the moment.But to be honest,i am listening to my body and something is not right.I NEVER miss a period,and the constant peeing and bloating worries me,and i am thirsty all the time with a dry mouth.I have tried to make a doctor's appt,i am in the Uk here and the process is sooooo slow.They gave me one a week today!!!By the way,what does AF stand for?
I'm sorry you're so stressed out hon. I hope that leaving your job was the right decision for you and that it will help you.
AF stands for "Aunt Flo" which means your period.
Your appointment for this week will be late enough so that they'll be able to find out what's going on with blood work. Could you also ask the doctor about a referral for counseling while you're there?
(((Hugs)))) Post again soon hon.
ok,i got my AF.After the most awful week last week,it arrived on sunday and i don't know if i was happy or sad to see it.I got an appointment at the docs,she is going to do blood tests ,but on the counselling front,unless i want to pay and go privately i just have to wait,even though i have already waited 5 months.I've cried so much this week,my mum has had to fly to Cananda for a funeral and she is the only one who i have told how bad i'm feeling to,i've cried in front of hubby but he just doesn't say anything and refuses to consider another child.I do see his point of view,but this need in me to have another child grows every day,and i still can't quite believe what i did,even though i remember how desperate i was at the time.
I have to go see my big boss this afternoon,i'm not looking forward to that.I will have to go back to work,we need the money too much,but really i should be off work due to stress.The doc said she would write me off but i said no as i worry it will go against me at work also.I am just so mixed up,merely functioning to get through each day,and then when i am alone just wanting to sleep and wake up when everthing is "normal"again.
Hi Linzi...sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time lately. (((Hugs))) It sounds like everything is just caving in on you. For one thing though, write down or circle on a calendar the day that AF started so that we know next month. You can now follow along with the fertility cycle information.
Have you checked into pregnancy centers nearby to see if they have post-abortion counseling? You really need to go hon. You need someone to share these feelings with. I can give you a phone number...but it'd be pretty darned long distance. Razz If worse gets to worse though, let me know. I have a good friend who does post-abortion counseling - quite frequently over the phone. First I would definitely look into the local pregnancy centers. I can search too if I haven't already for you. Just fill out the form here.
Let us know how it goes at work. You may want to start another thread on the post-abortion board. (((((Hugs)))) and prayers your way dear.
I just wanted to throw in my $0.02 if I may. Linzi, please do seek out some post abortion counseling. You are suffering needlessly and there is no reason at all to feel shame. Women who have natural miscarriages are not told they are strange for seeking grief counseling and lets call a spade a spade, an abortion has the same end result only not due to natural causes. Your body still lost a pregnancy one way or the other and you should feel no hesitation about seeking out counseling. Your emotional and hormonal upheaval is no less than a woman who was eagerly anticipating the arrival of her newborn only to lose it. Don't minimize your grief simply because is was of your own creation. Abortion is "safe and legal" therefore you should have no guilt trips put on you for having complications after the fact. KWIM? It is like any other major medical procedure there are risks for side effects and you are entitled to aftercare that will see you through to the next stage of your life. Best wishes and if you ever want to email me, (I am post abortive) PM me for my email address. (((Hugs)))
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